No More Excuses: How to Create What You Want
I am sick of hearing this excuse from my friend, again.
I’ve heard it a million times.
Yes, she has more challenging circumstances than I do.
Still, I’m over it.
These four words allow her to remain a victim of her circumstances.
These four words keep her from creating the life she wants.
Time for me to call her on her shit.
With love in my heart, that’s what I do.
To encourage her to do what she says she wants to do.
And, she gets it.
She even thanked me for it.
So, I’m here to call you out, too.
What’s your excuse?
Come on, we all have at least one.
An excuse for …
Why your business isn’t working.
Why the program flopped.
Why you ate that cupcake.
Why you aren’t exercising.
Why you stay in the bad relationship.
Why you aren’t dating.
Why you just spent two hours on Facebook instead of whatever you were suppose to be doing.
Why. Why. Why.
If you frequently say, “it’s hard for me” (or whatever your particular excuse is), you will never get what you want.
Borrowing from Elizabeth Gilbert’s take on fear (love it!), your excuses are the most BORING thing about you.
Because, your excuses are just like my excuses.
Let me break it down some more.
No One Cares About Your Excuses
No one cares it’s hard for you.
News flash: it’s hard for everyone.
Even for those people who seem to have it all.
No sick parent. No broken heart. No special needs kid. No mind-blowing debt.
Believe me, we all have our stuff.
Life is hard.
If that’s how you look it.
By the way, I hear it usually takes 10 to 12 years to become an overnight success.
Your Excuses Aren’t Fooling Anybody
We create excuses to try to hide the truth from other people.
To save ourselves from shame and humiliation.
We also make up excuses to try to hide the truth from ourselves.
It’s just too painful to admit to ourselves that we aren’t doing all we can to achieve our dreams.
Excuses are … excuses.
Excuses Are A Waste of Time
Saying “it’s hard for me” or “it’s never going to work” is a colossal waste of time.
The only way to go after your dreams is to take a step.
The smallest baby step will do.
Just do something!
Momentum builds and then you feel empowered to take another.
Excuses keep you stuck.
No explanation needed.
Excuses Make Life Harder
You get what you ask for.
As long as you announce to the universe that life is hard…
that it’s never going to work …
however your excuse shows up … that’s exactly what you get.
The more you say it, the more you believe it.
The more you believe it, the more you make it real.
The more you make it real, the stronger it gets.
Get off the hamster wheel!
How to Stop Making Excuses and Create What You Want
It’s time to stop making excuses.
Time to stop holding yourself back.
Here’s how to stop making excuses and create what you want..
#1 – Own up to the fact that YOU create your life.
Yep, own it girl.
This isn’t a test run.
This ain’t no fairy tale, baby.
No glass slippers or genies in a bottle.
Only you can make it happen.
Time to drop the crap and get to it.
Radical self-responsibility is where it’s at.
#2 – Get CURIOUS
What would life be like if instead of making excuses, you were CURIOUS?
Curious about trying something that is out of your comfort zone.
Curious about learning something new.
Instead of hoping this is the answer to all of your problems, take the pressure off by being unattached to the outcome.
Get out there and try stuff – from a curious, unattached perspective.
#3 – The “I’ve Got This” Experiment
Here’s my challenge to you.
Run an experiment for the seven days (or 30 days, or one day!)
Every time you say “it’s hard for me” (or whatever you say), stop.
Reframe your statement as, “I’ve Got This!” and focus on the opportunity you have to try something new that just may work out.
OK, I want to hear from you below.
What is your favorite excuse?
How does your experiment go?
Let me know!
You don’t want me to call you on your shit again do you?