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Live the “Ooh La La” Life How to Have the Courage to Be Happy


Who is the first person that comes to mind when you hear that word?

I think of a heroic firefighter emerging from a blazing building, carrying a kitten. And a cancer patient, clad in a brightly colored head scarf, patiently receiving chemo.  And a pack of frosty mountain climbers crossing an ice gap on the way to the peak of Mount Everest, Neil Armstrong taking the first step on the moon, Rosa Parks not giving up her seat on a bus in Alabama. The list of inspirational pioneers is endless.

But let’s put those tremendous examples aside.  What about having the COURAGE to design an exhilarating adventure and make your own dreams come true?

You may be able to acknowledge your deepest desires, whether that’s starting your own business, taking a sabbatical to spend a year traveling the world or relocating to that idyllic house in the country you’ve always dreamed of.

However, it takes a lot of guts to turn our fantasies into reality.  In fact, most people don’t ever do it. But let’s get real here. We have two choices. We can either muster up the audacity to live that big juicy life we crave, or we can give into fear and stay in mediocrity.

The only way to be truly happy is to go after exactly what your want.  It probably won’t be easy, there will be obstacles, but it’s going to be fun!

Here’s how you can discover the courage to live an “ooh la la” life …

Be Authentic – Know Your True Self.

To know what you want in life you have to know who you really are at the core. What is your essence? Ask yourself the following questions.

  • What makes you unique?

What makes you special? That’s your calling card. Like my red hair, the gap in my front teeth, my unabashed honesty and straightforward personality.

  • What are your core personal values?

What’s your personal code? Values guide your decisions and conscious. If you’re not sure what values you cherish, spend some time thinking about what’s always been important to you, what’s important to you now and what you admire in others. Some of my top values are loving-kindness, connection, justice/equality, open-mindedness, abundance, honesty and growth.

  • What’s your legacy?

A psychic once told me she saw me at the end of my life in a stark white art gallery filled with blank white canvases feeling like I’d accomplished nothing. WHOA! That image was a very vivid wake up call. I must admit at the time I felt like I was going nowhere.  I’m grateful I changed course and discovered my passion.  My legacy is to improve the world by helping professionistas tap into the power of happiness to be more successful in their lives, businesses and careers. If you’re not sure what your legacy is spend some more time exploring what makes you tick and how you want to help.

Be Daring – Confess Your Unadulterated Ambitions.

Admitting what you really want can be scary. Big changes may be required. People may judge you. But the only way to get there is to acknowledge your aspirations.  If you don’t have a clear picture of your passions, try making a vision board.

Be Bold – Believe in Yourself.

Prince Charming is a fairy tale. The only person who can make your dreams come true is YOU. The people who are most successful achieving their goals never doubt that they can pull it off.  They see setbacks as learning experiences not failures.  They keep their eye on the ball and keep going.  You need that kind of conviction and confidence in yourself to make it happen.

Be Fearless – Show The World Who You Are And What You Want.

It’s not easy to put yourself out there in a big way, show the world who you are and announce what you want. But you must dare to be vulnerable.  Sharing your goals with others increases the likelihood that you’ll follow through. Keep in mind that change is often uncomfortable, not only for you but those around you as well so be ready for criticism and opinions that may not fit with your vision. Get out of your comfort zone, stretch yourself.  Don’t do what feels good (that’s easy), do what feels right in your gut. Follow you instincts, stay connected to who you are, stay open and flexible.

Be Zealous – Make Yourself Your Mission and Commit to Living a Big Juicy Life.

As women, we have a tendency to put ourselves last on the list, if we’re on the list at all. But to design the delicious life that you covet, it’s essential you have the chutzpah to put your needs first. So go ahead, say “no” to things that aren’t supporting your priorities.  Be tenacious.  Do whatever it takes to get what you want.  Also remember that this is YOUR CHOICE, it’s up to you. You deserve it.

Be Smart – Get Support.

The most successful and courageous people in the world likely have a big support network around them.  I bet that most, if not all, of the experts in this magazine work with coaches, mentors and visionaries. You already took the first step by reading SoulWomen and joining the SoulWoman Sanctuary.  But don’t stop there! Seek out your own mentor or coach for guidance and cheerleading.

You have what it takes to BE COURAGEOUS. I believe in you.  Go for it and keep me posted about your journey!



Published in Soulwoman eMagazine

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12 Responses to “Live the “Ooh La La” Life How to Have the Courage to Be Happy”

  1. Cindy Ratzlaff ★ (@BrandYou) February 20, 2013 at 11:21 am #

    Elaine, the image you share of you standing in a stark white art gallery with nothing to show is brilliant and will stay with me for a long time. I found myself “painting” pictures as I read the rest of this article and planning what I’d like to see on my art gallery walls. Thank you for the big kick in the imagination this morning. Very inspiring.

    • elaine February 22, 2013 at 5:18 pm #

      Cindy I love that – kick in the imagination! So glad it inspired you. Get to painting that canvas with all the ooh la la you can muster!

  2. Cindy Ratzlaff ★ (@BrandYou) February 22, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

    Making a brand new “To Do” list right now and adding my name to the top. Thank you for that great reminder!

  3. Robert February 22, 2013 at 7:23 pm #

    Amazing article Elaine – Thank you!

  4. Miriam Wiener February 22, 2013 at 7:41 pm #

    Thanks so much Elaine, this is wonderful! Oftentimes I feel MOST courageous for the simple things – for example, every morning after sending my kids off to school with healthy lunches and smiling faces I tell myself I’ve just done the equivalent of climbing Mt. Everest! And it really DOES feel like that 😉 Raising the next generation is in my opinion one of the most courageous things I’ve ever done – and that’s after travelling the world on my own, living in the woods, starting a business. I’ve had a lot of “chutzpah” as you put it – but none of that compares to being a “Mom On A Mission”… thanks so much for the reminder 🙂

    • elaine February 22, 2013 at 5:19 pm #

      Yay for you and all the mothers of the world climbing Mt Everest daily! You’re so right Miriam. Now I have to hear about you living in the woods! You definitely have chutzpah. Kudos to you. xoxo

  5. Lisa Hines February 22, 2013 at 4:37 pm #

    I like the turn in the blog when you bring up Values. It’s such a great way to lead one’s life: by reflecting on one’s values while traversing this thing called life. Your post was also a good reminder to simply be authentic, allowing the beautiful canvases of our lives shine forth. 🙂

  6. Pamela Wills February 23, 2013 at 11:55 pm #

    I love this post, Elaine! Admitting to and announcing what we want, even when it’s scary is so crucial to living life authentically, you are so right! Thanks for the big reminder!

  7. Wendi Kelly-Creative Clarity Coaching February 24, 2013 at 11:57 am #

    “The most successful and courageous people in the world likely have a big support network around them.”

    This is one of the most important things that women need to hear!! So sad that women think they need to do it all alone!! They don’t realize that we are shouting HELP from the rooftops, grabbing each others hands, and climbing our way to the top together, hugging and laughing and crying as a team! NONE of us are doing this alone!

  8. Kerry Swetmon February 24, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

    This is a great post, Elaine. I don’t think I stop long enough to give myself “props” for being courageous. This is a needed reminder for me:)

  9. Jennifer Bourn February 25, 2013 at 4:59 pm #

    What a serious wakeup call! I think my favorite is the reminder to think about the legacy you want to leave and starting taking action to make that a reality. … adding this to my goals.

  10. Mia Rose February 26, 2013 at 12:10 am #

    Ohhhh… what a lovely article, Elaine. I too love the image of the art gallery with canvases. I’m happy to say that I can already see beautiful artworks depicting my children and grandchildren, travels and amazing experiences, and lately the work I do online too.
    Thought-provoking post!
    Mia 🙂

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